What You Must Do Before You Love Others

Recently, I read a very interesting article from Robert Ringer (link below)

Prerequisite to Loving Your Neighbor, Part I

He wrote that you MUST first respect yourself! Robert said that a lot of people that he meets do not respect themselves and consequently, do not respect others.

He said, "You can see it in his facial expressions and body language; you can hear it in his words and in the tone of his voice. "

To tell you the truth, I never thought about it that way. I always assumed that when someone is rude or cross with me, that it has nothing to do with me. They are just having a bad day. But what if they are having a bad life? What if YOU are having a bad life?

Yes, what happens if you are the person that Robert Ringer is describing. I can imagine that many people, including myself, never thought about how others view us. Are we unconsciously telling people that we dislike ourselves or have little or no self respect? Are we treating others with contempt?

And it is very hard to change your personality. I know that. But if the underlying foundation is shaky, you MUST take steps to strengthen it or the whole house will fall down.

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Winning Through Intimidation

I just finished reading an awesome book by Robert J. Ringer, "Winning Through Intimidation."

Although Robert wrote this book in 1973 as a real estate agent... his theories in the book can be applied to anything you are or do in your life.

One of his memorable theories is the "Boy-Girl Theory."

It states that every person wants what he can't have and does not want what he can have.

And I think that is so true...

And we don't appreciate what we do have until it is gone...

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