The World is Going to Pot and All I have is Self Respect

I think it is becoming more and more obvious that many people have lack of self respect...

They damage their bodies by over eating, smoking, excess drinking AND being inconsiderate of others...

If you are like me, polite, considerate and reasonable -- you would be shaking your head at what the world throws at you every day.

And it isn't even funny. Drivers honking and screaming obscenities when you 'dare' to merge onto their lane, co-workers trying to sabotage your career, or even perfect strangers won't take the time to give you directions when you are lost.

All those people have something in common. Lack of self respect and consequently, they are projecting that lack of respect to others.

What to do?

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What You Must Do Before You Love Others

Recently, I read a very interesting article from Robert Ringer (link below)

Prerequisite to Loving Your Neighbor, Part I

He wrote that you MUST first respect yourself! Robert said that a lot of people that he meets do not respect themselves and consequently, do not respect others.

He said, "You can see it in his facial expressions and body language; you can hear it in his words and in the tone of his voice. "

To tell you the truth, I never thought about it that way. I always assumed that when someone is rude or cross with me, that it has nothing to do with me. They are just having a bad day. But what if they are having a bad life? What if YOU are having a bad life?

Yes, what happens if you are the person that Robert Ringer is describing. I can imagine that many people, including myself, never thought about how others view us. Are we unconsciously telling people that we dislike ourselves or have little or no self respect? Are we treating others with contempt?

And it is very hard to change your personality. I know that. But if the underlying foundation is shaky, you MUST take steps to strengthen it or the whole house will fall down.

Relationship Advice

Study: Eyes Instinctively Focus on Good-Looking People

"If we're interested in finding a mate, our attention gets quickly and automatically stuck on attractive members of the opposite sex," explained study leader Jon Maner of Florida State University. "If we're jealous and worried about our partner cheating on us, attention gets quickly and automatically stuck on attractive people of our own sex because they are our competitors."

Article

What do you think?

It is either Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt...

Quite frankly, I can't stand either, probably because they are in the news all the time but still.

The truth of the matter is I think most of these studies by "researchers" are just that, finding excuses and reasons to justify why we have lack of self respect.

What do I mean?

If you are jealous, if you are looking at other members of the opposite sex instead of your spouse, you are probably lacking in the self-respect department.

And guess what? If you lack self respect -- as sure as it rains, you lack respect for others.

Just something to think about...

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